Ice Breaker (optional – choose one below)

  • How have you seen men portrayed in TV or movies recently? Can you think of more examples that are positive or negative?
  • What’s been a favorite Father’s Day gift that you’ve given or received?

Main Idea

The three big needs of men are companionship, sex, and honor. 


Men—do you agree that the three needs mentioned are the biggest needs of men? Do you think there is anything missing?


Women—which of these needs was most surprising to you? Why does it surprise you to learn that men have needs in that area?


Do you think our culture helps men find mostly healthy or mostly unhealthy ways of meeting these needs? Explain why you answered the way you did.


What does the Bible say?

Read Genesis 2:18

Why is it good for men to have a companion? What does that reveal about the way God designed men?

Read 1 Corinthians 7:3-7

Why is it important for married couples to not deprive each other of sex (v.5)? Why would scripture instruct us to base our sex life on our spouse’s needs instead of our own?

Read Ephesians 5:33

Why should we show honor to men to help them be better, instead of expecting them to be worthy of honor before receiving it? What does this say about the way God designed the relationship between man and woman?

Apply the Message

  • Women—What’s one need of the man/men in your life that you could better meet? What step can you take this week to help you improve?
  • Men—Which need feels most unmet in your life? How can you communicate that need to the woman/women in your life this week in a way that is loving and respectful?

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